When you choose someone – choose someone who “sees” you!

 

When choosing a partner, choose someone who knows how to “enter” you. Who certainly doesn’t understand you in everything, but needs to understand you. Choose someone to talk to about you. About your dreams. Fears. About your past. Choose someone who notices your smile. Details. Reactions. Someone who knows how to be supportive. Someone who is HERE. Miles away can be anyone and give you good conversations, but if he doesn’t bother to get close to you, it means he doesn’t even want to.

 

We live in a world that is so burdened by “how others see us”, and yet, as if we persistently choose in partnerships people who “do not see us”. In working with people and the conversations I lead, people have never been more unhappy, more disordered, never more confused, and never less loved.

We are noticed in all possible physical and physical ways, and yet as if we are not. The need to be beautiful, enchanting and loved is created in us and at the same time the reflection in the mirror reflects the blind world.

We play on love. On emotions. On the face of it. To consciousness. On spirituality. And so many times we actually play to the unseen. In a world where there is never more spirituality around us, and never less of it in us, we wonder why it is so hard to find someone?

The greatest reflection of a society’s spirituality is its relationships. And to be honest, relations have never been worse today. True, today more than ever before, we have opportunities to get out of a relationship. Break up without a problem. Start something new. We consider it a development of awareness and praise that act, but, in fact, what are we really doing? We do not live love. We try it.

We have more attempts than successfully formed relationships. More misses than truly fulfilled moments. We have a bunch of choices and never less knowledge of what to choose. Lots of tools to achieve the “perfect” relationship, and we never achieve it. Crowds of speakers telling us what we need, and we’ve never had fewer conversations. Neither with others nor with myself. We absorb everything and everything in ourselves except what we strive for – love.

We don’t meet. We meet on the surface of the skin. Accelerated. Classified. Tried. If he doesn’t go with this, he will go with that. If it doesn’t go this way, it will go that way. We make compromises when we shouldn’t and we don’t make them when we should. We fight for our attitudes that we do not stand for and we do not fight for what we stand for.

We import. And we drive on social networks. We say we have no time to waste. It’s early for us. It’s late for us. It’s us now. But now we can’t. So we are frustrated. Because who will wait for the next year, two, three to meet someone worthwhile to meet?

We have disrupted our natural flows. We don’t respect time for our loneliness. Take a break. Healings. If we are ready, we expect the whole world to be ready. But it still isn’t.

We never worked on ourselves again, and knew less about ourselves. About others. About relationships. We swallow. We absorb. We chew. And we spit. And in ourselves we fall apart together with others.

Because, if we were really so spiritual, people wouldn’t cheat on each other so much. They would not calculate in relationships and stay in them for the sake of math. Existences. Imposed morality. They would not try to justify every passion by necessity. Not so spiritually would they fall into so many identity crises. And if they searched for so long, they would already find each other, right?

And today it is not so. So many relationships are dysfunctional. Composed of lies. Fraud. A good opus of existence. Seemingly perfect. With a lack of communication. Painted. Painted. And admirable. He looked. Approvals. In the link shop window, we compete which is better on social media. Circles. Tabloids. And in stories.

We miss the touch. Words. Understandings. Proximity. Good luck. We lack passion. Revolution. Forces. Fighting. After all, we are chronically missing everything. Most dating. And they need time. Which we, as always, chronically miss. Your relationship is falling apart because you really almost never gave them a chance.

And I don’t mean the chances and forgiveness you give when they already destroy and grind you. I mean the chances of meeting someone on time. To feel it. To know if the man of your life really stands in front of you. Or a woman. Or a psychopath. Or your fiction.

Advice is always needed. Insight. Objectivity. But have we really become a generation that has put its compass of the heart in someone else’s hands? Don’t we really notice who we sleep with? Let’s wake up? Are we breathing? Do we share ourselves?

And so…

When choosing a partner, do not choose his zodiac sign. His status. His job. His property. His attention. His words. His appearance. His family. His interests.

When choosing a partner, choose someone who knows how to get inside you (not just physically). Who certainly doesn’t understand you in everything, but needs to understand you. Choose someone to talk to about you. About your dreams. Goals. Fears. About your past. Choose someone who notices your smile. Details. Your needs. Reactions.

Someone who knows how to be supportive. Support. And who is there. Miles away can be anyone and give you good conversations, but if he doesn’t bother to get close to you, it means he doesn’t even want to.

 

When choosing someone… Give yourself time. And give him time. Maybe it’s not the time for something. But that doesn’t mean it will never be. There are people who need healing. Sometimes these people will be you too. Respect that. If necessary, be alone. And, believe me, you always need that. You will always miss quality solitude.

And finally, when you choose someone, don’t just choose what you see, choose someone who “sees” you. That’s the point.

 

Olla  Chica

Written by:

Sanja Paraminski

Sanja Paraminski Aisha has been studying esoterics since 2006. Her domains are Astrology and Tarot. The recognizable and distinctive style of writing, deep texts that are always imbued with passion, is remembered by many readers as a unique example of an astrologer who always in a close and penetrating, yet specific way simplifies the astrological language of symbols and translates it into real images. Specific not only in the style of expression, but also in the attitude towards esoterics in which he often advises beginners to learn on their own and on examples through practice, instead of blindly reading the literature. He writes texts when he feels the need, because by writing astrological texts on a daily basis, he believes that the essence of astrology is being lost and that it is becoming a mechanism lost in the multitude.

“Be focused on the Stars, not guided by them, because Awakenings are special in your skin” – is her motto.

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